This article has been written and provided by thebereaved.org
Losing a loved one is an incredibly difficult situation and there is no quick fix for the grief that follows. Some of the healing required will only happen with time. Every day will get just a little bit easier, but remember that grief is not linear. One day will be easier and the next will knock you down again. All you can do is focus on each day and add something positive that will help you to heal. You may not feel it at the moment, but over time these efforts will lead you to healing. Today, we'll walk you through some helpful steps you can take to slowly bring yourself through your grief.
Enjoy the Fresh Air
Time outside brings benefits such as reducing inflammation and improving sleep. Humans Outside reports that regular doses of nature improve concentration and memory. Sweet memories become exceedingly valuable after losing a loved one, so schedule a 20-minute walk outside or a half-hour of gardening.
Make Your Home a Refuge
Convert your home into a safe space that allows you to grieve in healthy ways. Enlist the help of a friend to organize your place for safety and serenity. Decluttering your space reduces stress and aids in mental clarity. Remove any obstructions that could create a trip hazard. In addition to enhancing safety, an open space reduces anxiety, allowing you to focus during critical moments of quiet reflection as you process your grief.
Some people also find it calming and reassuring to have their loved one’s presence with them in their homes. If this applies to you, consider selecting a beautiful cremation urn that you can keep with you.
Avoid Comparing Your Grieving Process to Others
Accept that each grieving process is unique and complicated. Well-meaning friends and relatives may encourage you to imitate their example to surmount the pain but take your time processing your feelings. You may repeat the common steps of denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Try not to get frustrated and rely on associates who can patiently listen to you without judgment.
If you try to distract yourself without acknowledging your grief, the pressure may build to an unhealthy level and release in a destructive way. Even if you are setting positive goals and taking on helpful activities, using these as a distraction will prevent you from moving forward. Address your grief avoidance by designating times to work through your feelings in conversation with friends, journaling, listening to music, or speaking to a therapist.
Prioritize Physical Fitness
Exercise can ease the symptoms of sorrow by putting your mind on workout goals. The brain produces chemicals that boost your sense of well-being, and the improvements in your health give you confidence. If you struggle to find the time for more physical activity, take the stairs instead of the elevator or escalator. Your lunch hour can be another perfect time to take a brisk walk.
Keep an eye out for local workout events in your area. If the workout class is outside, even better. For example, this summer at Roupp Funeral Home we are hosting a Yoga for Grief event. A relaxing yoga flow with Lizard Toes Yoga allows us to sit with grief and at the same time create a space to feel connected to the present.
Start a Nonprofit
One powerful step that you can take to help with your grieving is to start a nonprofit in honor of your loved one. This can help to keep their memory alive and allow you to grieve in a constructive way. At the heart of any good nonprofit is a strong mission statement that clearly defines the organization's purpose and goals. When it comes to honoring a loved one, this mission should reflect who they were in life and what made them unique.
Another important element is fundraising. When soliciting different types of donors, make sure you convey not only the importance of the cause but also how much it means to you personally. You can increase your access to public funding and grants by registering as a nonprofit corporation. And the tax-exempt status that all nonprofits enjoy can make it easier to move forward even when finances are tight.
Revamp Your Sleep Schedule
Instead of letting despair rob your rest, make sleep a priority so you remain refreshed as you deal with additional challenges. Use timers and apps to silence alarms and alerts in the evening. Avoid caffeine, alcohol, and heavy foods late in the day to prevent sleep disruption. At the same time, the Sleep Foundation encourages you to set a designated hour to wake up and engage in productive activities as excessive sleeping causes lower energy levels, cardiovascular decline, and a greater risk of obesity and diabetes.
Address Your Grief and Find Healing
While there are no quick fixes to overcoming the pain of a mourning period, you can find ways to soften the blow and manage the despair. First, attend to your emotions. This can either be therapy or talking through what you feel with friends and family because without expressing your grief, you will never truly heal. Then, do things that give you purpose and help you to find your passions. Consider a career change or starting a nonprofit and work new healthy goals into your routine gradually to attend to your self-care and gain peace of mind and heart.
Every person is different, and so is their grief. Each person will follow a different path toward healing. If you are in search of grief support and would like to learn more about your options, please visit our grief resources page. Click here.
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