It’s that time of year again. Grief in and of itself is bad enough, but it can be magnified when the holidays roll around. That's mainly because the holiday season is filled with reminders of the one you lost, as you're surrounded by others who have their loved ones with them and are celebrating a season of joy and togetherness.
Movies can add to that feeling of loneliness during the
holidays. And picking the right holiday movie that won’t be triggering can be tricky. Some movies can evoke a good cry, others can be nostalgic and bring back good memories of those you’ve watched them with in the past. And then there are those movies that are purely to escape. If you’re grieving this holiday season, we’ve put together our top 10 Christmas movies for those who are grieving to get you through this difficult time of year!
1.Miracle on 34th Street
This movie is about opening your heart and letting your inner child believe in miracles and feel the hope and kindness Santa is meant to spread. It’s a great film for those of us who are sick of feeling sad, bitter, or cynical from grieving.
2. Home Alone
Whether you count it as a Christmas movie or not, Home Alone is a great demonstration of persistence. Persistence can be defined as the act of continuing onward despite difficulty or opposition.
3. Elf
This feel-good movie is full of laughs, romance, and self-discovery and has just the right amount of silliness to take your mind off your troubles.
4. How The Grinch Stole Christmas
The Grinch is angry and stays far away from others for the duration of the movie. He initially thinks that stealing Christmas will cause him to feel better. Come to find out, anger was the secondary emotion that was protecting him from the underlying hurt that he felt. That’s exactly how grief can make us feel. It causes us to withdraw or act differently towards others so, in a way, the Grinch may feel very relatable.
5. Gremlins
Ok, so we beg to differ whether this is a Christmas movie or not but regardless, it’s a classic. It’s a movie for pure escapism and something that will give a good thrill to get your mind off things even if it’s just for a few hours.
6. Frosty the Snowman
This is a great movie to reflect on our childhood. If you haven’t seen it in a while, you may have forgotten that the jolly, happy snowman melts at the end. The children who love Frosty must deal with losing a loved one, just like we are.
7. A Christmas Story
People are going to question you and your abilities throughout your life, just like Ralphie is questioned by the bully. This does not mean that you need to question yourself. You are the expert in your life and your decisions. The holidays and the new year are a perfect time to reconnect not only with friends and family but with yourself and your values. You might be amazed at how others can help you during your time of grief.
8. The Nightmare Before Christmas
We’d like to label this another movie for pure escapism and just fun. This is a Christmas fantasy movie like no other, and the songs from Danny Elfman are delicious without being overly sweet.
9. It’s a Wonderful Life
Comparing your life to the lives of others is an urge that often comes at the price of your own mental well-being. When you compare yourself to others, often you end up feeling inadequate and potentially even depressed and anxious. This movie serves as a reminder that the world would not be a better place without you. You may not always know the positive impact that you have on others.
10. Almost Christmas
Initially, the characters in this movie are isolated in their own grief. This is an acknowledgment that it’s hard to connect with others when we’re feeling a loss. It’s easier for us to lash out in anger or stay in denial. However, once we allow others in, the knowledge that we’re not alone can be incredibly healing. It makes the burden of grief just a little bit easier to carry.
Perhaps the lessons in these movies resonate with you and give you a new perspective on your grief this Christmas season. Throughout the holidays, keep in mind that grief takes time. It’s okay if you aren’t feeling 100 percent or if you need to bow out of a few engagements. You’ll need to give yourself grace while you’re grieving. But remember – you need joy to balance out your grief as you learn how to live life again and find your new normal.
This winter, come join us at Roupp Funeral Home for our 13-week GriefShare program. This Grief Support Group is happening every Tuesday at 6:30 pm starting December 5th through February 27th. The program is offered at no cost and you may register at any time.
If you’d like more information on how to attend, please contact us or visit: https://www.eventbrite.com/o/roupp-funeral-home-36200047863
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